For those who were a part of my chat discussion last week, you know your input was so much appreciated. It was so welcoming to have positive energy to discuss many things openly that bothered me. I don't know all of you personally, but you are appreciated.
If you missed it, we talked about all things blog, social media, comments, blocking pages, and a lot of perceptions on sharing information. Because it went so well, I plan to do it often.
The first thing we spoke about was this perception of being first. People think I think I have to always be the first to share something. I mean, that can't even be real...it doesn't happen like that. I post when I hear, when I can. And I have no way to get test store info, so that I rely on the regular sharers of that info like @_scentsgalore.
First, Last, whenever. When I use the words...here is your first look, I mean it's from me. My writing and sharing it. Yes, I get info early at times before anyone else, but I never took that as anything serious. I don't care who shares info first - I try to make my info as credible as possible because accuracy matters. That's it. I get information that I cannot share immediately, (like now) and information I can share. Anyone who said I am upset there are others sharing information now are way off base and are only looking to start issues. Have at it...and share.
We talked about: blocking pages and why that resource is there to start with. I shared every screen shot that has been part of the nonsense since May in a blog posting, including my three responses on IG not stories and the overall opinion was: everyone does use blocking, why was it a big deal?
I guess for the person blocked they no longer have a resource to see and it hurts their feelings, and for the blocker it removes the situation from view. Like walking away from a bad situation. That is the best that I can explain it. I block to stop the nonsense that affects me...as I am sure others have blocked me for the same reason. And after talking the pros and cons of it, I still intend on using it, knowing those who get blocked only get another ID. Every one talking said they block people too, maybe not as much as I do. Ha ha. The list, is long.
We discussed the Comments Closed currently. That, I am steadfast and firm on currently keeping them closed. I had the comments on blogs, FaceBook, Instagram - everywhere open for years and years. And occasionally I would get a nitwit who, in the middle of the night, thought it was funny to add porn photos to posts on every thing I shared.
I do know the importance of having a "discussion area" for the topics I share. Some do like to see what others think or know. I get that. But they don't deal with the trolls who get revived up in groups or other social pages incited to come to leave negative comments. Comments of hate in the direct messages is one thing. Having to patrol the comment section is ridiculous and I chose not to do it anymore. People complain here and everywhere and say, "we come for the information, not your drama." There it is...enjoy.
We talked about sharing, tagging, and photo/information credit...specifically the "As Requested" now added to links of my info.
I can't contact the person because I don't know who they are but Jen who shares my info on Reddit using the tag for my information "Credit by Life Inside The Page As Requested" keeps the nonsense going for me with the "as requested."
Let's just NOT credit me anymore. That as requested keeps fueling the trolls because they don't know the back story - and that is NOT what I said regarding giving credit. Again, people share everyone's info and are fine using @ signs and listing their name...but mine has to be made into a big bucket of crap.
My mentioning it in the first place was because of those who come to my writings daily, screen shot the blocks of lists and info I posted, and share it as their own in Facebook groups, taking credit for it or simply saying I found it online. I am in plenty of groups, and I never post my links or photos or info in them. It is not my FB group to do that so I don't. And I found it online is crap when you know where you found it.
When it is shared like that, people think, (because I was told) people think the person actually sharing it wrote out the list, or that I copied them!!!
You don't need to even share a link, simply saying I saw this on Life Inside the Page today would have been fine. I am fine with no credit given at this point on anything I do.
Oh, and we talked about the photos from BBW. My information, my writings, all of that is my own. B doesn't send me a list of things to write out, they don't write it and I copy it...I do the work. I share photos sent to me and the rest is my work in making it into an archive, so when I state it is my work that is shared...it is.
And the last thing we talked about was the drama. When one person keeps sharing it over and over as if there was a dialog going on back and forth, the perception for anyone who sees it - was that there was drama going back and forth. There wasn't.
I was told I should have said something in the beginning. I was told I should keep it to myself when it happens that others don't share it for all to see. I don't know what the right answer is. This has only happened a few times over the last decade of sharing so both choices never work well.
I do know that when I ignore what is being sent to me as happening, it continues. Even without a response. And when I do respond, I am the ass. So it's agreed....if/or when anything happens, I am posting it. No being quiet. No keep it to yourself. No one to accuse me of making posts that are a response when they were simple answers to questions asked of me in DM's. The posts of nonsense will be public including my responses. That way everyone will know the backstory.
Because the response was a positive one, more of my open chats, and live chats will continue. I will be sure to make a post of when the next one is coming...I am looking forward to sharing more SAS info there.