When It Stops Being Amazing
A note about Life Inside the Page Daily Finds on Facebook, and what comes next
Last night, I shared on Instagram that the Life Inside the Page Daily Finds Facebook page has been deactivated. I wanted to clarify this step so those looking for the page would understand its status.
Why I Deactivated the Page
My hope is to archive the page to preserve the years of information and photos that have been shared, without allowing new comments or posts. Unfortunately, because it’s classified as a business page, Facebook does not offer a simple “archive” option. My only choices are deactivated or delete.
And with over 97,000 followers, including 68,000 active ones, deleting everything feels wrong. My husband saw my distress on Tuesday and reminded me: take a week and think it through. So, I’m doing that.
The Emotional Toll
For years, I’ve tried to be everywhere—sharing helpful information across social sites tied to my blog. But the more I’ve given, the less rewarding it has felt lately. Especially in the face of constant negativity.
Years ago, the community felt kinder, more joyful, even when disagreements happened. But today’s climate—particularly online—is increasingly hostile.
It’s not just Facebook and Instagram anymore. Platforms like Reddit and Discord have become breeding grounds for hate toward me. Whole groups seem dedicated to tearing me apart, not just for what I post, but personally—down to involving my family and my deceased daughter.
Yes, you read that correctly.
Admins of a Discord group had to pin a post asking members not to talk about me unless they were sharing one of my photos. Think about that. I’ve seen screenshots of their messages. The names they called me. The jokes about my child. The glee in cruelty.
And yet, they had the audacity to be upset when I shared their usernames in a response post. Suddenly now they want to “talk like adults”? Where was that energy when they were spewing venom behind a screen name?
This Is a Fragrance Community?
I never imagined something like Bath & Body Works content—candles and soaps—would become the backdrop for this kind of hate. But some people thrive on drama, and social media gives them a playground. These aren’t just random trolls. These are people with names, faces, and group chats who celebrate each other’s cruelty.
So yes—I know many tell me “Just ignore it.”
But how do you ignore someone digging up and discussing the death of your child in a fragrance chat?
You don’t.
You can’t.
What’s Next
I haven’t decided what to do with the Facebook page yet. But I do know this:
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I’m no longer going to pretend this behavior doesn’t exist.
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I’m no longer going to be silent while strangers twist the truth.
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And I will always call out cruelty—especially when it crosses lines that should never be crossed.
If you’ve been part of this journey with me—thank you.
If you’ve ever spoken up when you saw something wrong—thank you.
And if you’ve simply shown kindness in a world that often forgets how—thank you most of all.
I started this because it once felt amazing to be a part of something.
Lately, that feeling has faded.
But maybe…with time, and space, it can return.